Can You Not Repeat That…..
Repetition is a great teacher….except when the lesson is detrimental
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Okay, I gotta come clean about something that happened today…..
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Let me cut right to the chase because, well let me be honest:
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Lately, I feel envious of all the fun couples and families are having on these beautiful summer days….
THOUGHT
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And this makes me feel like, ‘how dare I try to inspire others about their feelings’….
FEELING
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I stew over this and pout cuz it makes me sad…
ACTION OF THOUGHT
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I stay home and off the phone to not let my hurt show…..
OUTCOME OF THOUGHT
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I feel envious of all the fun other couples and families are having on these beautiful summer days….
RE-ENFORCED THOUGHT
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Marisa Peer calls the above dialogue an example of “looping thoughts”.
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These are thoughts that don’t serve you and go round and round in an endless circle.
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it starts with a THOUGHT
then a FEELING
which leads to an ACTION
this in turn has an OUTCOME
which leads you back to RE-ENFORCE that original thought
rinse and repeat
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Repetition is a great teacher….except when the lesson is detrimental
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Today, I fell victim to repetitive thoughts. (Well, I actually do every day
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These loopty-loop stories will leave you feeling stuck, frustrated, angered, saddened, helpless, hopeless….. you get it
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I can’t win
I’m not good enough
Things never work out the way I want them too
I’m not ever gone fall in love
I can’t seem to find my way
My voice is never heard
All my efforts result in failures
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Ever have a negative thought?
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Do you have bad habits and negative actions you can’t control?
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I would say none of the above is your fault.
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After all, we are hard wired to ACT in a way that is consistent with how we think about ourselves.
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But until YOU choose to do something about those negative thoughts, you will continue to create the stuff you don’t want in your life…
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So quit trying to kick a bad habit or change an ugly behavior, if you are not willing to learn what you can do to no longer be ruled by negative thoughts.
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Repetition is a great teacher….except when the lesson is detrimental
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You see, I know better.
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So I applied what I teach my clients….
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Funny how that works.
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So yes, if I can keep being honest ….
I repeatedly have negative thoughts, but what I seldom REPEAT are the detrimental actions!
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Repetition is a great teacher….except when the lesson is detrimental
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Keep Your Head Up and Keep Moving Forward.
The New Normal Woman’s Divorce Coach
