‘Firsts’….a thing of the past?

Michelle Flowers

4 min readApr 12, 2021

𝕎𝕙𝕖𝕟 𝕨𝕒𝕤 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕝𝕒𝕤𝕥 𝕥𝕚𝕞𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕕𝕚𝕕 𝕤𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃?

ｈｕｈ？？？

Does it seem the older you get, 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 are just not the same?

Long ago… in a land far away….your 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 were miraculous:

1st breath

1st steps

1st spoken and written words

then your 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 became exciting and fun:

1st in line in the lunch room

1st to be picked for a team

1st on the bus to get the seats in the back

but then as you got a bit older, those 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 were accompanied with anxiety and sometimes flat out fear:

1st date

1st final exam

1st kiss + ………

1st time speaking in front of the class

and then 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 started to lose their lackluster as you began making your own decisions:

1st job

1st car loan

1st rent payment

a point arrives, where your 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 become life changing:

marriage

child birth

investments

home purchase

then you reach a level in life where your 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 become far off dreams you one day hope to experience (aka-bucket list)

𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜…????……𝙙𝙤 𝙬𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙛𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙭𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙮 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙞𝙘𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙞𝙘𝙚𝙨 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙉𝙊𝙒?

Why can’t we live NOW with that youthful enthusiasm that once pulled us to face 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 fearlessly….. (say that 3x)

Why can’t we live NOW with the sense of hope and miracle level type faith as we face our 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 with wonder?

It really is no surprise, when you 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃 choose to leave your 9–5 to pursue what makes your heart sing….. that you fear judgement, you fear failure, you doubt your decision.

It is no wonder, when you 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃 get divorced and are free from the turmoil and pain….. that you fear being alone, you get anxious about making it on your own, you question if you did the right thing.

I started to write today about my first NLP event that I attended this weekend…

How exciting and refreshing and mind blowing NeuroLinguistic Programming is…..

But then I began to think about how I’ve been living the last year or so with so many 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂…..

Yes some came with anxiety, fear and even doubt…..

but I didn’t stop…. I pushed thru and I am thankful because many of these 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 have resulted in me experiencing that youthful joy and fun that 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 used to bring.

If you really think long and hard, you may remember there was a tinge of anxiety, doubt and fear that actually did accompany your youthful 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂….

but back then you considered it playful competition….

now you see it as stepping out of your comfort zone

If it helps, shift your perspective from worrying about crossing that comfort zone line to

facing life’s 🄵🄸🅁🅂🅃🅂 with the thought of living your best life…